Aleksandra Petkovska

Worldwide Virtual Doula
Aligning heart and mind to birth the way you want.
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Working With Me

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I work with families as a virtual doula and coach to help them prepare their heart and mind for the birth they want.

I was not a person who heard many stories about birth growing up, and those I did were not necessarily positive. This shaped my beliefs and I have been working hard to shift my mindset about birth, pregnancy, parenting and major life transitions in general. Information is important, and I bring that, but so is heart, I want you to have the best of both!

about me

My journey has taken me to many unique places in the last 2 years, I tell people close to me that I don't need to be knocked over the head with a lesson too many times before listening and taking action.

So in this time I started my journey as a doula after working as a perinatal social worker for 2 years, and then my partner and I left Canada to travel the world and create community online and locally to amazing destinations around the world.

Now I want to serve YOU to help you align your heart (stories + beliefs) with your mind (information + education) to birth the way you want.

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packages

My business is evolving and growing alongside my own personal journey, and that gets me so excited because I get to develop new ways to serve you!

I offer a mixture of local in person support as well as virtual support for families looking for a birth or postpartum doula, help developing birth and postpartum plans, and people wanting support navigating fears and negative stories around the whole transition period from conception to entering parenthood.

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birth workers

I came into the birth world as a social worker and through that lens I saw the gap of support for birth workers in terms of their emotional and mental health.

Upon researching more I found evidence for what many of us observe in this community and that is high burnout rates and distress related to the work. Being an entrepreneur on top of that can make this work isolating. Birth workers need help processing difficult births and outcomes as well as the families themselves experiencing them. I offer one-on-one support as well as a free facebook community of support where we hold virtual support groups for birth workers.

Find the group here.

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What does having a spiritual connection mean to you?
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To me it means being able to sit with myself in silence and hear myself. Connecting to my intuition. Feeding myself nutritious food, understanding how it affects my cells and choosing health, being connected to the land n touch, smell, sights, feeling for all living things on the planet and behaving in such a way that shows kindness and respect towards them.
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Staring up at the moon and the stars and feeling gratitude for the light they share with us.
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Your spiritual connection and connection to self helps with your connection with your babe. In pregnancy you are teetering between the realms of this world and other worlds, as is your baby, and in terms of physical connection, well you're as connected as two being could possibly be.
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But it isn't so easy to feel connected with oneself, or with babe sometimes. For many different reasons. We live in a hectic society, and it can really drown connection out.
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I want to leave you with one technique that you can use to help you stay connected with yourself, your heart and your pregnancy and baby.
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Coherence refers to a state within which all systems of the body are working harmoniously and in sync. Research is showing that the heart is highly intelligent and it is actually the first to react to any situation, sending signals up to the brain which then allows the brain to respond.
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Therefore if we can get our heart in coherence with the rest of our body we can connect to our true self, to positive emotion and enter any moment feeling calmer, more intuitive and focused.
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1. Sit or stand somewhere that feels comfortable, close your eyes and start to intentionally breathe deep breaths.
2. After a few breaths start to imagine that you are moving your airflow in and our of your heart space. 
3. Try to call in a positive emotion- gratitude, love, appreciation, pride- whatever it is. See a person or image that helps you achieve that feeling.
4. Open your eyes, and onwards!
Let this be your reminder that you matter too. Health is not reactionary, but proactive.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Carve our 10, 15, 30 mins to do something that supports your emotional and mental wellness.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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The biggest gift I have been able to give myself in the last few weeks was getting back to the gym. Lifting weights. There are all kinds of alternative ways to train and I see value in all of it but I know this is what works best for me physically and mentally.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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How are you choosing health today?
"You have to feel an emotion in order to be able to heal it"
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"The only way out is through"
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"You can't heal what you don't feel"
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How many times have you heard statements like this? Recently I heard this statement and for the first time I thought to myself, what the heck does that even mean? 
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What is the mechanism with which feeling an emotion, will help us heal it? And how long does the process take?
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I have used this statement in counselling sessions, said it to friends, but honestly, I don't have the answers.
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One theory I thought of is that when we acknowledge and sit with an emotion, we start to shave off the shame or embarrassment or fear associated with it. You take it out of the shadows into the light. You give it its time.
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I don't know if you have ever sat down in meditation just to find that you are sitting with an emotion that you've been running from. Remaining still, keeping your eyes closed, facing yourself, may be one of the most courageous things you could do. 
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Maybe you need more than that though, maybe you need to go to the gym and lift heavy, or run it off, dance it off, whatever it is.
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All of these things in one way or another come down to 
f a c I n g and then r e l e a s I n g.
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Today is the Full Moon and the perfect time for releasing thoughts, beliefs, feelings, people....whatever you need.
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One thing I like to do from time to time is to write out my thoughts of what I want to release and then burn it. I set an intention and say a small prayer as I am burning it to ask for aid with releasing whatever it is I have written down. Perhaps this is something you can try tonight!
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What are your favourite Letting Go Rituals?
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#bloominglife #lettinggo
The last few months have been an extremely impactful time for all of us in one way or another. The impact of our lives has all been different, but I am certain we will all be changed in some way. Our lives will not look the same.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I challenge you to think: how have these times changed you?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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What are you thinking now, that you weren't thinking about before? How has this impacted your parenting? Your birth plans? The plans for your family? Your community? Your beliefs? Your relationship to work-life balance? Your relationship to health? Your understanding of what health is?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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For myself, many things were further solidified. And some things I am thinking more about now that I was not paying much attention to before.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I am even more certain I want to live financially (and physically) independent to major systems and institutions in our society. I want to be in a small, quiet town/rural town. Need to be surrounded by nature. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I want to have my babies at home and raise them running barefoot on the beach and in the forest. I want to grow food that we prepare and eat together with our family. I want to take part in building my own home, on my own land.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I am rethinking my relationship with social media and want to be more mindful of how I use it. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I want a return to community. I want a home near like minded, nature minded, land based, family valued people. I want my children to grow with their grandparents close by. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I want my business to give back to communities of birthers and families from all backgrounds. I want to spend money in black and indigenous businesses. I want to share content, attend events, and refer to black and indigenous birth work colleagues. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I want to always be present for births. And walk with people in their postpartum. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I want to live empowered and inspire empowerment. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I want to sit in stillness more.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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How has this time changed you? Your life? The way you want to birth and parent?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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