Aleksandra Petkovska

Worldwide Virtual Doula
Aligning heart and mind to birth the way you want.
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Working With Me

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I work with families as a virtual doula and coach to help them prepare their heart and mind for the birth they want.

I was not a person who heard many stories about birth growing up, and those I did were not necessarily positive. This shaped my beliefs and I have been working hard to shift my mindset about birth, pregnancy, parenting and major life transitions in general. Information is important, and I bring that, but so is heart, I want you to have the best of both!

about me

My journey has taken me to many unique places in the last 2 years, I tell people close to me that I don't need to be knocked over the head with a lesson too many times before listening and taking action.

So in this time I started my journey as a doula after working as a perinatal social worker for 2 years, and then my partner and I left Canada to travel the world and create community online and locally to amazing destinations around the world.

Now I want to serve YOU to help you align your heart (stories + beliefs) with your mind (information + education) to birth the way you want.

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packages

My business is evolving and growing alongside my own personal journey, and that gets me so excited because I get to develop new ways to serve you!

I offer a mixture of local in person support as well as virtual support for families looking for a birth or postpartum doula, help developing birth and postpartum plans, and people wanting support navigating fears and negative stories around the whole transition period from conception to entering parenthood.

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birth workers

I came into the birth world as a social worker and through that lens I saw the gap of support for birth workers in terms of their emotional and mental health.

Upon researching more I found evidence for what many of us observe in this community and that is high burnout rates and distress related to the work. Being an entrepreneur on top of that can make this work isolating. Birth workers need help processing difficult births and outcomes as well as the families themselves experiencing them. I offer one-on-one support as well as a free facebook community of support where we hold virtual support groups for birth workers.

Find the group here.

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I find that adult life is often about refinding your childish joy, wisdom and true self.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Recently I have been trying to draw and colour more as a way to dig into my childish spark. And I am simultaneously releasing the belief that "I am just not artistic"⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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What a load of absolute crap we have all been told o believe, that any human could possibly not have their own version of creative expression. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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What an excavation journey it is!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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How do you find childish joy in yourself?
I feel a shift in my life. I am transitioning through a sort of veil. I am journeying somewhere in between Maiden and Mother.
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Lately I have been thinking a lot about how I want to parent. Who I want to be as a parent. Who I want to be as a pregnant person. As a birthing person.
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One of the best things about social media is that our community has an opportunity to grow exponentially and in ways it may not have otherwise grown. I feel I have access to watching people birth and parent who I may not have otherwise met. But who give me something to think about, to learn from, to take from them what seems to fit and leave what doesn't.
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I believe this journey to Motherhood will be a few years for me, but the seeds are planting. The work is beginning. I am learning and unlearning. And thinking intentionally. If making some changes for myself has been a tough motivation, making changes for the parent I dream to be may be a stronger motivator.
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I serve people at all walks and times of their parenting journey because I know my parenting journey has started and I'm not going to be a parent for a few years.
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I want a society that centres family and when we centre family it means
Healthy children
Healthy teens
Healthy young adults
Healthy relationships
Healthy maidens (not everyone identifies with this term, I just happen to identify with it in this moment)
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An ode to this picture and our time with our niece who exemplifies so well the childhood I want for our little ones. It's a perfect depiction of how I want to raise my children free in nature, soaking up the land, the water, the sun, the wind. Free. Confident. Unreserved. 
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Therefore, I must live free, confident, unreserved. 
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Therein lies the work. 
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When would you say your parenting journey began?
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#bloomingfamilies #parentingjourney
I did not make the decision I made to travel the world thinking that it would be an immediate happy pill.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I knew I could change my environment and circumstances, and that does do wonders for your state of being, but no matter where you go, you take yourself with you.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I made that decision because although I didn't have the words for it at that time, I needed to distance myself from all the distractions of western life, so I could meet myself and start to choose more things in my life that brought joy.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I recently read about an idea of spiritual and intellectual journeying being necessitated by  living congruently with your beliefs, values and true desires.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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All of us in some ways make decisions that are not aligned with our true selves. We may not even know it in fact, an honest mistake.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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But I want to live eyes wide open and true to myself.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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It hasn't been a happy pill, not that it hasn't brought me joy, because it has, but because it's transformational and its an internal, spiritual journey, there has also been difficult times, meeting and dealing with shadow aspects of myself.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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But I would rather take a mess of living intentionally, with some eye opening bumps along the way, then living far from my joy.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I discovered that a simple life is the best kind of life for us. Lifting weights in a gym bring me joy. Splashing around in water brings me joy. Walking around barefoot brings me joy. Playing with my nieces brings me joy. Fruits and veggies bring me joy. A daily evening walk under the moon brings me joy.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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My partner was nervous, for his own reasons, to return to his small hometown in Serbia, which he left six years ago. I heard many comments about how I would get bored here fast, and perhaps I will at times but honestly, I'm happy as can be. It has helped me realize that what I need to be happy is very simple and achievable in almost any (non metropolitan sized) space.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Are you living your life aligned with your true self?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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One of the best tips I gave families I worked with about postpartum was to be direct and specific when talking about support postpartum.
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There are people around who you may want to help but will help in the way that they think is helpful and that may not be what you want or need.
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Talk about it while still pregnant, give people specific directions and tasks. Continue the conversation postpartum, give reminders, and continue to ask directly for what would be helpful to you.
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Is this easy to do? Uhm, no. Many of us have a hard time setting boundaries, speaking directly and asking for help. But it is something that will make a big difference in your postpartum journey.
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I see partners and other family members who really have the best intentions to help and want to help, and they do help, in the way they think is helpful, and I see how many times it isn't the kind of help the birthing person needed most. So they do it themselves. Or accept what they get. Which is okay on a short term basis but in the long run is counterproductive.
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Were you able to have clear and detailed discussions about the kind of support you needed postpartum? Tell us how you did or didn't handle it below!
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